Someday, you and my son will meet and fall in love. You are going to be young and unsure and probably a little stupid lol. I mean that in the best possible way. I am writing this to you because you are not yet around, and the sooner I write this to you, the better.
When my son's heart begins to tie all those little strings to yours, he will make the decision to let you deeper into his life. He will make himself vulnerable. But he will be giving me a wonderful gift by doing that, and this gift will last until my days on this earth are over. I will be meeting you for the very first time. When this happens, both our lives will change.
I never want you to feel like I am judging you because I will never cross those lines. I will never make you feel as if you have to be someone else in order to fit in with our family. You will always be welcome to be who you are. The fact that you are different is great. There will be so much that you can teach me by being who you are. Neither of us are perfect, and although we will have our contentions, you and I will never get past the point of no return. Because I will not be that type of mother to you. You have been molded and shaped by things in your past that have given you the qualities you now possess. I want you to teach me about who you are and why. Don't ever think that I don't want to know you. I do. I want to know the woman my son has given his whole heart to. I will always give you a chance.
A new home, the one you will move into with my little boy, will be an exciting time in your relationship. I will be here when you ask. I would love to help you. I would love to give you my opinions and my thoughts. One of my biggest passions is decorating, but I will not over step my bounds. You are your own individual, and I know you will have a beautiful eye. I want you to develop your sense of independence, so you can become the wife that doesn't always have to have a helping hand. And you may already be that person, even before you meet my son. But I want you to feel like you have the freedom to express yourself the way you see fit without me intervening. It is YOUR new home and I would love nothing more than to see you create it.
When my son asks you to marry him, and I know he will because he is going to fall madly in love with everything about you, just know that before this wedding planning process even begins, I am 110% supportive. I beg of you to never doubt that. Nothing about him marrying you will ever be a disappointment to me. Not that you should be THAT concerned with how I feel anyway. If the sweet little boy that I gave birth to has found a new reason for his heart to beat, and that reason is you, I will have a love for you that you can't even begin to understand. The happiness that you bestow upon his life will bring that much more to mine, because it means everything to me to see my son live a happy life. I am overwhelmed with joy that you are going to forever be a part of it. Although it will be difficult to see a new woman walk into his life, after he has been only mine for so very long, I will be ready to accept the change, and I will find comfort in knowing that the blessings in his life are only just beginning. I will have spent many years preparing myself for the moment when he tells me he has found his soul mate, and that he is going to pop the question. I will be ready, and I will be there for him. I will encourage him. I will give him the unconditional love that he will expect from his Mother.
Someday, my sweet daughter-in-law, if or when you become pregnant with my grandchild, life will be crazy. It will be exciting and scary and you will feel so out of your element. You will experience every emotion known to man. Your thoughts will go from, "I just want to hold this baby right now!" to, "How in the hell am I going to keep another human alive?!" I am going to be bursting with so much energy that I can hardly contain myself. From the moment the two of you share the news with me, I will be ready to buy the pink bows or the blue blankets. But I know you and my son will feel the same. All eyes will be on you, and the attention will be almost overwhelming. But I want that for the two of you. I want you to receive the oohs and ahhs. I want you to be showered with thankfulness and love for this new little life you will be bringing into our world. You should feel like you deserve all of it, like you are on cloud nine, and I want to assist with that feeling. I promise to put my applause and thrill on hold, so that the two of you can experience what it is like to enjoy your first pregnancy. Sometimes a little bit of silence can mean more than words. There will be shopping trips and baby showers and gender reveals. The stage will be yours, and I will be one truly happy audience.
You are a mom now. You will bring a piece of Heaven into this world and my son will fall in love all over again. You will give our family another legacy. Not only will my son's love for you be greater, but the moment they place that beautiful little baby in his arms, he will feel a kind of love that he has never felt before. This child is a part of him. He/she is a part of him, and a part of the woman that he so desperately admires. You, sweetie, will be tired. Your body will hurt and you will long for even a ten minute nap. You will ask your own mother for advice on how you should handle things. I will tell you this, your mother is going to be your true guidance. She will know what to say and how to say it and she will help you the way she sees fit. She will do what is right for you and your child. Never will she direct you down the wrong path. Why isn't your newborn sleeping at all? Why is he/she screaming as if he/she is in pain? What do you do when the formula is causing his/her tummy to be upset? Your mother will give you her best known instruction. She will tell you things she did with you when you were a baby, things that helped not only you rest, but her, as well. She was able to get peace by doing these things, and by no means would she ever give you any guidance that would cause your little one harm. I will stand by her. I will second her opinion, understanding that she is your mother and that this is your child. You rely on her, and that is to be expected. I promise to never make you feel like what you are doing is a bad thing. I may not always agree with the choices you make, but I am going to stand beside you regardless, because I know what it is like to have people judge your every parental decision. I know what it is like to cry yourself to sleep just hoping and praying that everyone around you will just shut up and let you do your trial and error. After all, becoming a mom is a learning process that never really ends.
My beautiful DIL, your marriage may not always be perfect. Everyone falls short and makes mistakes. That is life. I will be here for you, no matter what. You can always count on me to love you and take care of you, just as if you were my own child. The feelings you have and the life you are living mean everything to me and I would never do anything to make you feel as if it doesn't. You are going to be the reason my son gets to experience a love like no other. You will show him what a woman really is. He will be so in awe at how strong you are when you become a mother. How even after four consecutive weeks of hardly any sleep, you are still able to get the house cleaned and dinner ready by 5:30. There will be times you turn to me for help, and there will be times you would rather not hear my input. That is OK. Never be ashamed of wanting space. Never feel any sort of guilt for not wanting my advice. You are my family, my friend, the mother of my grandchild, and first and foremost, the love of my little boy's life. We will understand each other, even when times get tough. That is what unconditional love is about. Sometimes I may think I'm right and you're wrong, but I make a promise to you that my pride will never be worth giving up the life I have with the family you have built with my child.
As I come to a close here, please know that I already have a debt I will make payments to everyday. A debt to you that I will always be polishing. To be the best possible second mother I can be. I will strive to be better each day and when I fall short, please give me the benefit of the doubt because I am trying. I didn't have the best mother-in-law, but she did teach me a lot. Everything I have written are things she unknowingly taught me. Even though I hold no ties to the woman, I also hold no grudges, because if she did anything at all for me in the short four years I got to know her, she taught me about everything I WILL NOT be for you.
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When my son's heart begins to tie all those little strings to yours, he will make the decision to let you deeper into his life. He will make himself vulnerable. But he will be giving me a wonderful gift by doing that, and this gift will last until my days on this earth are over. I will be meeting you for the very first time. When this happens, both our lives will change.
I never want you to feel like I am judging you because I will never cross those lines. I will never make you feel as if you have to be someone else in order to fit in with our family. You will always be welcome to be who you are. The fact that you are different is great. There will be so much that you can teach me by being who you are. Neither of us are perfect, and although we will have our contentions, you and I will never get past the point of no return. Because I will not be that type of mother to you. You have been molded and shaped by things in your past that have given you the qualities you now possess. I want you to teach me about who you are and why. Don't ever think that I don't want to know you. I do. I want to know the woman my son has given his whole heart to. I will always give you a chance.
A new home, the one you will move into with my little boy, will be an exciting time in your relationship. I will be here when you ask. I would love to help you. I would love to give you my opinions and my thoughts. One of my biggest passions is decorating, but I will not over step my bounds. You are your own individual, and I know you will have a beautiful eye. I want you to develop your sense of independence, so you can become the wife that doesn't always have to have a helping hand. And you may already be that person, even before you meet my son. But I want you to feel like you have the freedom to express yourself the way you see fit without me intervening. It is YOUR new home and I would love nothing more than to see you create it.
When my son asks you to marry him, and I know he will because he is going to fall madly in love with everything about you, just know that before this wedding planning process even begins, I am 110% supportive. I beg of you to never doubt that. Nothing about him marrying you will ever be a disappointment to me. Not that you should be THAT concerned with how I feel anyway. If the sweet little boy that I gave birth to has found a new reason for his heart to beat, and that reason is you, I will have a love for you that you can't even begin to understand. The happiness that you bestow upon his life will bring that much more to mine, because it means everything to me to see my son live a happy life. I am overwhelmed with joy that you are going to forever be a part of it. Although it will be difficult to see a new woman walk into his life, after he has been only mine for so very long, I will be ready to accept the change, and I will find comfort in knowing that the blessings in his life are only just beginning. I will have spent many years preparing myself for the moment when he tells me he has found his soul mate, and that he is going to pop the question. I will be ready, and I will be there for him. I will encourage him. I will give him the unconditional love that he will expect from his Mother.
Someday, my sweet daughter-in-law, if or when you become pregnant with my grandchild, life will be crazy. It will be exciting and scary and you will feel so out of your element. You will experience every emotion known to man. Your thoughts will go from, "I just want to hold this baby right now!" to, "How in the hell am I going to keep another human alive?!" I am going to be bursting with so much energy that I can hardly contain myself. From the moment the two of you share the news with me, I will be ready to buy the pink bows or the blue blankets. But I know you and my son will feel the same. All eyes will be on you, and the attention will be almost overwhelming. But I want that for the two of you. I want you to receive the oohs and ahhs. I want you to be showered with thankfulness and love for this new little life you will be bringing into our world. You should feel like you deserve all of it, like you are on cloud nine, and I want to assist with that feeling. I promise to put my applause and thrill on hold, so that the two of you can experience what it is like to enjoy your first pregnancy. Sometimes a little bit of silence can mean more than words. There will be shopping trips and baby showers and gender reveals. The stage will be yours, and I will be one truly happy audience.
You are a mom now. You will bring a piece of Heaven into this world and my son will fall in love all over again. You will give our family another legacy. Not only will my son's love for you be greater, but the moment they place that beautiful little baby in his arms, he will feel a kind of love that he has never felt before. This child is a part of him. He/she is a part of him, and a part of the woman that he so desperately admires. You, sweetie, will be tired. Your body will hurt and you will long for even a ten minute nap. You will ask your own mother for advice on how you should handle things. I will tell you this, your mother is going to be your true guidance. She will know what to say and how to say it and she will help you the way she sees fit. She will do what is right for you and your child. Never will she direct you down the wrong path. Why isn't your newborn sleeping at all? Why is he/she screaming as if he/she is in pain? What do you do when the formula is causing his/her tummy to be upset? Your mother will give you her best known instruction. She will tell you things she did with you when you were a baby, things that helped not only you rest, but her, as well. She was able to get peace by doing these things, and by no means would she ever give you any guidance that would cause your little one harm. I will stand by her. I will second her opinion, understanding that she is your mother and that this is your child. You rely on her, and that is to be expected. I promise to never make you feel like what you are doing is a bad thing. I may not always agree with the choices you make, but I am going to stand beside you regardless, because I know what it is like to have people judge your every parental decision. I know what it is like to cry yourself to sleep just hoping and praying that everyone around you will just shut up and let you do your trial and error. After all, becoming a mom is a learning process that never really ends.
My beautiful DIL, your marriage may not always be perfect. Everyone falls short and makes mistakes. That is life. I will be here for you, no matter what. You can always count on me to love you and take care of you, just as if you were my own child. The feelings you have and the life you are living mean everything to me and I would never do anything to make you feel as if it doesn't. You are going to be the reason my son gets to experience a love like no other. You will show him what a woman really is. He will be so in awe at how strong you are when you become a mother. How even after four consecutive weeks of hardly any sleep, you are still able to get the house cleaned and dinner ready by 5:30. There will be times you turn to me for help, and there will be times you would rather not hear my input. That is OK. Never be ashamed of wanting space. Never feel any sort of guilt for not wanting my advice. You are my family, my friend, the mother of my grandchild, and first and foremost, the love of my little boy's life. We will understand each other, even when times get tough. That is what unconditional love is about. Sometimes I may think I'm right and you're wrong, but I make a promise to you that my pride will never be worth giving up the life I have with the family you have built with my child.
As I come to a close here, please know that I already have a debt I will make payments to everyday. A debt to you that I will always be polishing. To be the best possible second mother I can be. I will strive to be better each day and when I fall short, please give me the benefit of the doubt because I am trying. I didn't have the best mother-in-law, but she did teach me a lot. Everything I have written are things she unknowingly taught me. Even though I hold no ties to the woman, I also hold no grudges, because if she did anything at all for me in the short four years I got to know her, she taught me about everything I WILL NOT be for you.
