For the girl who goes out of her way

To the girl who feels like she is never enough for anyone. Who feels like nothing she does will ever measure up. Like she is competing against the inevitable... With friends, relationships, friendships, etc. You are good enough. You do measure up. You're your own person, and you deserve to feel like you are cherished and cared about. Being a giver is a trait you must learn to use wisely. Everything that you do may not always be acknowledged, and gratitude may never be shown, but know that there are still people in this world who are not cruel. People who understand you and your heart, and love you for being such a kind person. Do not beat yourself up because someone played with your emotions. Users are the losers here. Some people feel entitled to things, and that is not your problem. That is on them. Some people were raised to care about nothing but themselves. Always remember the people who treat you fairly. Remember the people who ask how you are doing when they haven't heard from you in a while. The people who are never, "too busy." 

Unfortunately, with all of the self-centered individuals in this world, always thinking of the people you care about can set you up to be destroyed inside. Because they don't always care in return. You're going to feel taken advantage of, but never stop being the thinker. Never stop being the giver. Never stop being the person who goes out of her way. Don't try and change who you are because of the negativity in others. And don't feel like you are wrong or odd for being thoughtful. Some people are just miserable with themselves and don't notice the hurt they cause others. Some people get off on leaving people out. Some people somehow see beauty in their arrogance. Unfortunately, little do they know, it is an awful trait to have. Your beauty immediately fades when you treat the people who have shown you they care like dirt. But to this girl, who is struggling. I will remind you time and time again, there is NOTHING you can do to change someone who doesn't see an issue with their actions. Stay true to you. Love yourself and you will be amazed at the toxicity you stop tolerating. The disappointing thing about this world is that thoughtful people always get hurt first, and the most. We are constantly being walked on, because we are willing to take a consecutive beating for the ones we love. We are always the second choice - the sacrifice. We are always the call that is made when someone else can't come. We're always a sub-in, or some sort of benefit to get something else. We don't ever get the apology, we're always giving it. Even when we were not responsible for the problem. Because, yet again, we care deeply. We would rather apologize for something we didn't do than lose our friendship/relationship. We are the person who wants to help you even though we know you wouldn't do the same for us. But guess what, we're still going to do it because we have a heart like no other. Yes, we too make mistakes. But we know how to own up to it. We understand that it's ok to admit when we are wrong and we aren't ashamed of it. The neat thing about being the giver, the thinker and the one who is always trying is that our mistakes have made us who we are. We were built on figuring out where we strayed from the path and how negativity effected us. So, mark

my words when I say that we are strong. Don't ever try to break the girl who gave it her all because she is going to surprise you every single time. We don't break - we bend. And when we are forced to bend, we mold ourselves into who we need to be to overcome the obstacle. 

Never settle for less than you deserve, but never stop loving and showing compassion in spite of what you've been through. You are who you are for a lot of reasons, and even though you may not always feel appreciated, you are. You are appreciated by all of the others just like you. You are wanted and cared about. You have a heart of gold, and it is rare. When you are constantly doing for others it can be hard to remember that you also need to take care of yourself. Don't forget that you need to love yourself, too. You deserve the same kindness you show to others. Don't ever let anyone make you feel like you aren't worth it. Your value is not determined by anyone else. You decide what you are worth, and what you are worth is not the sub-in, or the second choice. Your worth is not the last call on the list. Your worth is not being used or taken advantage of. Your worth is the originality you put into things. It's your kindness and your want to do for others. Your worth is everything. So remember this when you feel like you aren't good enough. You are doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing, exactly where you are meant to be. The road may not always be a busy one. Loyalty, love and compassion for others is sadly a lonely path to walk these days. But find it in your heart to keep walking, even when you want to drop to your knees and quit because you're so tired of fighting for what feels like nothing anymore. The destination is worth it, and you will find that in the end, you were worth holding on to. You were worth the friendship. The relationship. The partnership. It was those that neglecting to see you that no longer have value. And when they finally realize this, that is when you absolutely, and utterly turn your back and walk away. That is when you are still doing the kind thing, the thoughtful, the right thing. Because you're finally doing it for yourself.