I've watched people I thought were my friends turn into complete strangers. I've felt the dreaded end to a friendship coming, and it really is a dread. Who really wants to lose friends? But, even the closest of relationships can fade over time. Sometimes it's someone's fault, and sometimes it's not. Life can be funny. The world has a way of distancing us from people for a reason. Maybe it's time to go our separate ways. Maybe we have nothing in common anymore, and maybe your behavior and the way you treated our friendship has cost you. Either way, distance and change can be a good thing. Keep in mind that not everyone you lose is a loss. Loss is a word meant for something you didn't want to ever be without. Something you couldn't see yourself not having. But if this is a burden lifted, then loss is not the word.
I've learned that true love really is a thing. It really exists. It may be hard to find these days, but it's still very much out there. Someone, somewhere, will actually love you in spite of the fact you thought it wasn't possible. There are people who can change everything you think you knew about trust, love, and passion. There is someone out there who is going to hear the bad you've done, and fall in love with you anyway. And they'll hear the good you've done, and love you that much more. This person is going to make everything you've ever gone through, worth it. And you'd do it all again if it meant you'd end up in their arms at night. You deserve to be with someone who knows what they have when they have you. Find that person, and when you do, never give up on them. Always fight for them because they are worth it. Love is worth it.
I've been taught that there is always hope, even when your heart is breaking. There is hope during sadness and sorrow. There is hope during anger and animosity. And we may not all have the same form or idea of what makes this hope so apparent, and so great, but we have it, and that's all that really matters. Because we need it. We all need our own kind of hope. We need hope. Without hope we would never find the strength to pick ourselves up and move on. We would never be able to stand up for ourselves. With no hope there would be no success, no calm after the storm. So even in the darkest of times, find your motivation, your safe haven. Hold onto it and keep it as handy as an iPhone. You are always, always going to need it.
I've found that there is some sort of beauty in every experience. There is beauty in even the bad, and if you look hard enough, there's always a message to be heard. Sometimes experience can be a hard teacher, giving the test first and the lesson later. But regardless of how we learned it - the main thing is that we did, and we move forward channeling those lessons into the rest of our lives. Mistakes are what make us who we are, no matter how or why they arise. The trials face in our personal life, jobs, friendships, marriages, etc. are all learning experiences. To better us for all the continued curve balls this journey we call life throws at us.
I've learned that I do deserve happiness. I do deserve all the wonderful things that I have. I deserve them even when I think that I don't. I deserve them when I've had a rough day with my children, and I deserve them when I feel like I'm on top of the world. I may not always be happy with myself, but that doesn't mean that is my destiny. It means it was a bad day, not a bad life. Everyone deserves to see their value. It may not always be that simple, but it's always worth trying for.
I've discovered that the heart really is the body's strongest muscle. It's amazing the beat down it can take, and still somehow manage to continue working as perfect as it did in the very beginning. Through the overwhelming mountain of emotions this life can fling at us, the heart is strong. It's always strong, and it will surprise you with it's incredible ability to heal even when you believe the damage that has been done is permanent. And that's really all that needs to be said about that.
Life has shown me the best and worst in people. It has shown me, unfortunately, that just because I love others, does not mean I will be loved and cared for in return. I have come to find that never expecting anything from anyone is the only way to not get hurt. It took me a very long time to figure out that we must learn to give because we want to be good to people. Not because of our intent to receive. We must not complicate things more than they should be complicated. If you're thinking of others for the right reasons, there will be all sorts of rewards to come, none of which may ever be from the recipients of your kindness.
If life has taught me anything, it's that things are ever changing. We are always evolving as human beings, and working through new challenges. We will continue learning, and being taught new lessons. The neat thing about life is that everyday is a new day and a fresh start. We may not always go to bed on a good note, with others or with ourselves, but we can choose to wake up and make a change. We can use all we've been taught to benefit ourselves, and others, in a positive way. Always remember that when one door closes, another has opened elsewhere, and if for some reason there isn't another door, there's always a window. Take in the little things. Remember what you deserve. Don't settle. Smile. Spend time with the ones who make you feel alive. Work hard, but don't forget to relax. Time is precious. Friends are precious. Don't ever be afraid to use what you've learned through all the peaks and valleys. To do what is best for yourself and the ones you care about. Remember hope? We will always need it. Be who you are, love who you are, and allow yourself to be loved by others. Life happens. Let it.
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